Why men have affairs?
Chat about a loaded topic that no one wants to talk about, this is it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on from the beginning of the world. Extramarital affairs can be filled with troubles, cause sadness, and other problems. Also you have to wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty issue, finances, age difference, religious background, remorse, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I shall identify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married dating.
Why do men have affairs? There are as many answers as there are men seeking an affair. I am sure generally though it is just the human state, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and exciting, and sex makes us get away the world for a brief period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people can turn the desire on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another individual, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos people has erected against married dating. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the wrath of not only their relatives, but the public also. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is terribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not hurt your family or anyone else? You will need to minimize the threat you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest grouping, huge actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they are comfy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to look after. Your assets are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex performance, at least not with their othere half. An affair sometimes solves the problem while keeping the marriage whole.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a common groung I fear. One or the other, frequently the man is sexually neglecting his lady for a large humber of reasons. As a man I really am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them available to us men of romance, making them “lonely wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, could be caring is disappeared, maybe it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Could be we have just developed distantly, our relulas interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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